Ryanair and pornography

Ryanair, a european airline company known for cheap airline tickets, just announced that they will provide a new in-flight app that will allow passengers to view pornography during flights. Customers could simply log into a Ryanair app using their iPads or smartphones and then pay to gamble, play games or view sex scenes.

As a professional airline business, Ryanair's decision to promote pornography is a surprise to me. It is not professional for a CEO or employee of any company to view pornography while at work and it certainly wouldn't be professional to provide pornographic material for the employee break room. Providing pornography on its flights will degrade Ryanair's professional integrity as well as its public image.

Pornography is a degrading business for both men and women. It glorifies violence and abuse of women and casts us as a human race in a role less than that of the animals- for animals mate to reproduce in response to their natural urges. What the pornography industry distributes is an image of sex which is anything but natural. It is not reflective of how kind, successful, civilized people show affection and love and it certainly is no reflection of how a man in love truly treats his partner. Instead, pornography casts men in the role of soulless, hungry animals without any modicum of self-restraint and women in the role of play things, slaves, who must not only endure some of the worst forms of abuse but act as if they truly enjoy it.

The truth is that many pornography workers have sexually transmitted infections, drug and alcohol addictions, massive debt, depression, panic attacks, and chronically low self esteem. Women in the pornography and sex trafficking industries experience physical and sexual abuse routinely as a part of their job in ways that are not only emotionally damaging but often physically damaging as well. The aggressive and unnatural sex they participate in often leads to severe damage of a woman's reproductive system. Sexually Transmitted Infections are a frequent problem for sex workers. The profession puts women in situation where they are at high risk for developing gynecological and urinary problems. The multiple sex partners, the high likelihood of sexually transmitted diseases, and anatomy of a women's urological system makes urinary tract and bladder infections a serious concern. Lack of protection and contraction of HIV/AIDS, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, and other STI's drastically increase the chances of devoloping cervical cancer. Far from uncommon is a prolapsed uterus- caused by the damage of repeated, rough, hard sex. The muscles and tissues which hold the uterus in a womens's abdominal cavity are torn and weakened to the point that the uterus may actually fall down through the vaginal opening. Infections, hemorrhoids, and herniation involving the bladder and rectum are all possible complications.

Pornography is not glamorous. It is not a respectable industry. To protect the future of our society, we can not condone in any way the principles of violence, abuse, degradation, and objectification of self and fellow human beings. For your husband or wife, your children, your sacred honor, and the future of your country, please stand against pornography. Keep it out of our homes and away from our children.

For more information, including peer reviewed research, please visit the Pornography Harms website.

To participate in the effort to keep pornography off of Ryanair- and far away from other airlines, please go here to send a message to the Ryanair leaders.

words of the prophets & to the anonymous young man

Words of the Prophets

(or other church leaders)

Some Church members feel weighed down with discouragement about the circumstances of their personal lives, even when they are making sustained and admirable efforts. Frequently, these feelings of self-disappointment come not from wrongdoing, but from stresses and troubles for which we may not be fully to blame. The Atonement of Jesus Christ applies to these experiences because it applies to all of life. The Savi

or can wipe away all of our tears, after all we can do....

Mercy and repentance are rehabilitative, not retributive. The Savior asks us to repent not just to repay him for paying our debt to justice, but also to induce us to undergo the personal development that will purify our very nature. The “natural man” will remain an enemy to God forever—even after paying for his own sins—unless he also “becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord.” (Mosiah 3:19.)...

Life is a school, a place for us to learn and grow. We, like Adam and Eve, experience “growing pains” through the sorrow and contamination of a lone and dreary world. These experiences may include sin, but they also include mistakes, disappointments, and the undeserved pain of adversity. The blessed news of the gospel is that the Atonement of Jesus Christ can purify all the uncleanness and sweeten all the bitterness we taste....

...the Savior’s grace can bless us, beyond its compensation for our sins, in our quest for divine perfection. While much of the perfection process involves a healing from sin and bitterness, the process involves an additional, affirmative dimension through which we may acquire a Christlike nature, becoming even as the Father and Son are.

...while no other success of ours can compensate for our failures within or outside our homes, there is a success that can compensate when we cannot, after we conscientiously do all we can. That success is the Atonement of Jesus Christ, which can mend what for us is beyond repair. Perhaps, I thought, that holy influence could even do for this man’s son what it did for the younger Alma.

Bruce C. Hafen "Beauty for Ashes"

So I occasionally follow this blog. I don't remember how I got started on it. Seems like it has something to do with EFY or Hannah (Bush) Ryan. I don't always agree with Bro Jo's stance on things (mostly it seems like he makes general rules out of things that should be guidelines and with consideration prayerfully adopted or adapted to a person's individual situation. but that's a whole other discussion), but in this most recent post, I agreed with him 100% and my heart went out to the anonymous young man who sent the email. I ended up leaving a comment and figured I'd post it here.

missions are good but at this point, you absolutely need to be focused on repenting. many a young man has gone through addiction and served an honorable mission (i know some). many have also have not, but still turned out to be admirable men who married in the temple and are wonderful fathers and priesthood holders (i know some of those as well). if you don't go on a mission right away at 19 or even at all, it will be hard because at your age everyone asks about it. your bishop, close friends, and loving family can help you figure out how to navigate in an honest and dignified way.

my heart goes out to you. it is soo good that you chose to take this step and email bro jo. let your bishop become one of your best friends. i've had bishops i felt it difficult to connect with, but when i prayed about it the Lord eventually blessed me with the experiences i needed to know, trust, and truly love my bishop.

be completely honest with yourself- about your mistakes, the consequences, your future, and also your talents, skills, and gifts. pornography is definitely destructive to the soul, but satan would have you believe that it has taken over and eliminated everything else. this is simply not true. remember that you DO have righteous desires and cherish those. keep them in that special, sacred place in your heart and never, ever, stop hoping and having faith that through the Atonement and mercy of Christ, those desires will surely be fulfilled. focus on the repentance process, particularly using the church's addiction recovery program and other similar resources. this 12-step program will teach you how to utilize the Atonement in your every day life to overcome addiction, codependency, depression, self-hate, self-destructive thinking, and other unproductive habits.

the Lord loves you. i've no idea who you are, but i love you. my heart goes out to you and i sense that, like many who struggle with this same problem, you are truly a valiant soul who feels deeply, is intelligent and talented.

God bless.

Resources

• LDS Addiction Recovery Program (includes 12-step group locations and times and the 12-step book)
• Heart t' Heart a 12-step LDS group run by a couple experienced with the devestation pornography can bring and the joy the Atonement can restore. this group has many great resources.
• Clean Hands, Pure Heart book, written by Bro. Harrison of Heart t' Heart. he shares his own experience in achieving recovery from pornography addiction and has written this book as a guide through the 12 steps. (he and Sis Harrison have written other books as well-- I highly recommend them to anyone who struggles with addiction- whether it be their own or that of a loved one.)